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The Benefits Of Keeping Aquariums On your Mental Health 

It may not seem like an obvious choice at first. However, keeping fish and shrimp can have a positive effect on your mental health. This article explores these benefits and how fish can improve your home or your study space. 

 

Improving your mental health

Keeping fish or shrimp falls under ‘animalassisted therapy’. In most cases either dogs or cats are used in this type of therapy. However, fish can have positive effects as well.  The biggest advantages to fish (or any animal), is that they connect you with nature. A 2005 study showed that contact with nature can provide a populationwide strategy for the prevention of mental health issues.  

 

So, what is it about fish specifically that can help us with our mental health? As well as connecting us with nature, fish live in water, and water has many therapeutic benefits. Many people find the sound and visual effect of running water very calming. In fact, you can achieve the same effect just sitting and looking at the water in the sea or a lake.

 

Owning a tank

You can have all the benefits of fish and water by owning your own tank. Fish owners all state that overall the most stressful part of owning fish, is generally the initial set up. Yet, many owners agree that the benefits outweigh any of the initial stress. However, it is not always practical to own your own fish.  If you are unable to own your own fish tank, then you can still gain all these benefits by visiting fish. Maybe you have a local fishpond or aquarium? Even just the occasional visit has been shown to greatly improve a person’s mental health.  

BHTC vision and values

Bex Harper Tutoring and Coaching pride itself in putting clients’ mental health first. I strongly believe in the therapeutic benefits of fish, shrimp and water snails, which is why there is an aquarium in the BHTC study and coaching space. These delightful, calming creatures are, therefore, incorporated into our sessions, wherever possible. For example, in coaching, the relaxing sound of water flowing can relax you enough to explore areas of your life in greater detail.

In terms of tutoring, often children can be nervous about coming to a tutor for the first session and it provides common ground and opportunities for conversation that isn’t exclusively focused on them. This can help calm tutees and make them feel relaxed. BHTC also allows clients to bring their own slippers to wear, if they want to really feel at home!

 

If you would like a calming environment to learn or to re-evaluate your life and achieve your big goals, then BHTC is for you! Drop me an email (hello@bexharper.com) to find out more!

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How to determine your core values

Core Values?

Values drive our aims and goals in life. They help us to sort out what is important to us and where we need to direct our focus. Pick your top 5 values for living your life (and another 5 specifically for your business or career). See if, in your current situation, you are truly achieving the life you want with these values.

You can do this by writing down examples of how each of these 5 values appear in your life, at the moment. If they don’t feature in your life currently, write down one step you can take towards achieving this value in your life. The more values you are currently including in your life, the more true to yourself, your dreams and your moral compass you will be.

The aim is to get all 5! Our goals and values change, so it is useful to do this exercise every year.

Here is a list of key values:

Acceptance

Achievement

Acknowledgement

Adventure

Aesthetics

Appreciation

Authenticity

Balance

Beauty

Being active

Bliss

Caring

Career

Clarity

Comfort

Commitment

Compassion

Community

Co-operation

Confidence

Contentment

Courage

Creativity

Curiosity

Daring

Dedication

Detachment

Determination

Devotion

Diligence

Discipline

Discernment

Empathy

Empowerment

Energy

Enthusiasm

Excellence

Exciting

Fairness

Faith

Fame

Family

Financial independence

Flexibility

Forgiveness

Freedom

Friendship

Fun

Generosity

Gentleness

Goodwill

Grace

Gratitude

Growth

Happiness

Harmlessness

Harmony

Healing

Health

Honesty

Hope

Humility

Humour

Inclusiveness

Independence

Insight

Integrity

Influence

Intelligence

Intimacy

Introspection

Intellectual growth

Intuition

Joy

Justice

Kindness

Knowledge

Leadership

Learning

Love

Loyalty

Maturity

Money

Nurturing

Openness

Orderliness

Participation

Partnership

Passion

Patience

Peace

Performance

Prosperity

Purpose

Recognition

Relationships

Reliability

Respect

Responsibility

Reverence

Risk taking

Sacrifice

Serenity

Service

Sharing

Silence

Spontaneity

Strength

Status

Support

Success

Trust

Truth

Understanding

Unity

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Why are we burning ourselves out?

I’ve previously written a number of posts about health and wellbeing. However, there is still one thing that baffles me: why are we burning ourselves out? Well, for one thing, our fast-paced modern society expects everything to happen immediately. We want that person to respond to our text or to get things done all at once. But, unfortunately, one thing that hasn’t changed: there are only 24 hours in a day!

Over the past 10 years, I’ve taken numerous steps to trying to improve my wellbeing and quality of life. I’ve given up drinking caffeine, set regular goals to be sure I am going in the right direction. I’ve decluttered my life significantly to only keep the things that make me happy. In fact, you could say, I’ve done it all. But I’ve noticed, through coaching others and my own journey one thing in particular. This is how, once high achievers finish one goal, they go onto the next one without taking the time to appreciate what they have accomplished. Subsequently, many high achievers find themselves burnt out, developing chronic illnesses or even life-threatening illnesses, such as cancer or heart disease.

So what’s the solution? Well, there is no one or easy answer to this. But definitely getting to grips with the stressors in your life; carving out free-time to get a clearer work-life balance and celebrating your achievements can all help. A journal or workbook can help.

Here are some suggestions for journaling to helping you achieve this:
  1. What are you grateful for today?
  2. What self-care are you going to do for yourself tomorrow?
  3. What would you really like to be praised for today?
  4. How can you be forgiving today?
  5. Which tasks can you delegate, delete or delay?
  6. Will the world end if I take today or tomorrow off work?

These can be powerful questions for helping you to run a business, pass exams, manage a project, or just cope with a job that you hate. It’s important to enjoy your life. Life is short and no-one died saying they wish they worked more hours! So, if you are really struggling, reach out to friends, family, a therapist or life/business coach and see how you can get the support you need.

Like most therapists have their own therapists, most coaches have their own coaches. I could have coaching on anything, but I specific choose to focus on health and wellbeing in my sessions with my coach, because I feel that once you are feeling energetic, healthy and calm, the rest falls into place: be that your business, your love life, your parenting, your job. In order to do any of these well, you must be well. So, for me personally, health and wellbeing are a must.

Good luck, and if you do decide you would life to try a discovery coaching session, drop me an email: hello@bexharper.com – I look forward to hearing from you.

Coaching Packages

I have just launched my five tailor-made coaching packages! Once you have completed your complimentary session, you can continue by booking blocks of sessions up front. I have provided a number of options, as clients have different income levels and various business or personal life needs:

 

Coaching Packages

Purple: The One Month-er 

  • Two pre-coaching tasks so I know in advance what you are dreaming about, aiming for and worrying about, so we can make the most of our time together.
  • 2 x 1 hour coaching sessions – over a month.

Investment: £99

 

 

Bronze: The Seeker

  • A pre-coaching workbook so I know in advance what you are dreaming about,  aiming for and worrying about, so we can make the most of our time together.
  • 4 x 1 hour coaching sessions – over 2 to 3 months.
  • 1 x 30 min follow up sessions to be used within 6 weeks.

Investment: £199

 

 

Silver: The Dreamer

  • A pre-coaching workbook so I know in advance what you are dreaming about, aiming for and worrying about, so we can make the most of our time together.
  • 6 x 1 hour coaching sessions – over 2 to 3 months.
  • 2 x 30 min follow up sessions to be used within 6 weeks.
  • 3 months of email support to make sure you’ve got an accountability partner, as well as the support and momentum to make the changes you want and to reap the rewards.

Investment: £399

 

 

Gold: The Believer

  • A pre-coaching workbook so I know in advance what you are dreaming about, aiming for and worrying about, so we can make the most of our time together.
  • 12 x 1 hour coaching sessions – over 4 to 8 months.
  • 2 x 30 min follow up sessions to be used within 8 weeks.
  • 8 months of email support to make sure you’ve got an accountability partner, as well as the support and momentum to make the changes you want and to reap the rewards.

Investment: £799

 

 

Platinum: The Achiever

  • A pre-coaching workbook so I know in advance what you are dreaming about, aiming for and worrying about, so we can make the most of our time together.
  • 24 x 1 hour coaching sessions – over 9 to 12 months.
  • 3 x 30 min follow up sessions to be used within 12 weeks.
  • Free invites to all online workshops and seminars that I run.
  • 12 months of email support to make sure you’ve got an accountability partner, as well as the support and momentum to make the changes you want and to reap the rewards.

Investment: £1999

 

You can email me at coachme@bexharper.com to highlight your interest in being one of my coaching clients and to book your first free one-hour session.