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What are your big dreams?

For a long time, one of the biggest dreams for me was to hold a book in my hands that I had helped create. When I received my copy of Domestic Imaginaries: Navigating the Home in Global Literary and Visual Cultures in the mail and held it in my hands, it was the greatest feeling of completion, and like a goal I had been working towards for years had finally reached fruition. But getting started was difficult, as I had never published a book before and neither had my co-editor, Hollie. Nevertheless, we really went for it!

Although I believe in regular goal setting and reviewing, I feel it is also important to prioritise your top goals. This is because we often start something difficult, and when we hit a difficult point, it can feel natural to give up and go onto something else that is easier and less daunting. Something safe. If you are someone with a lot of goals this can be dangerous because you could get deflated as you chip away at several dozen goals, but never really achieving any real milestones or completing any goals. This is why focusing on a maximum of 5 goals at a time is important. If  you are unsure on how to pick, it might be that you try to get balance by attempting to pick one goal for a different area of your life, such as:

  • relationships, friends and family
  • finances
  • career, work and business
  • well-being, health and fitness
  • hobbies, creative projects and travelling
  • personal and spiritual growth

Alternatively, you might find that most of these areas are going well, except for one and you want to set 4 or 5 goals that will get this area back on track.

Or you could pick according to urgency and need. If you could list all your goals and pick the top 5 most important, which would you pick? What could you do right now to get started on making small steps towards these big dreams? Who can you ask to help you? Often, once we break it down into sizeable chunks the big dream just looks like lots of little steps towards a bigger goal. And that is because it is!

If you are interested in finding out more and want to explore coaching with me, book a discovery call with me and find out how to achieve your dreams! Email me at hello@bexharper.com

How to organise your goals: Be, Do, Have Lists

One of the most effective ways to set long term goals is using a ‘Be, Do, Have’ list. In short, you write down all the things you want to be, all the things you want to do in life and all the things you want to have (both material and non-material). Then you come up with steps to achieve these goals. Here is some food for thought to help you write the list:

1. Be

  • What sort of person do you want to be seen as by others?
  • What sort of role do you want to play in others’ lives?
  • If you aren’t happy in your career, what do you want to be?
  • What sort of emotions do you want to feel more often?
  • What sort of habits do you want to adopt or establish?

 

2. Do

  • What do you want to do to earn money?
  • What sort of hobbies do you enjoy or want to cultivate?
  • Where do you want to go/travel/live?
  • What haven’t you done yet that is important to you?

 

 

3. Have

  • Is there anything you want to buy that you don’t yet have?
  • What sort of relationships would you like to have?
  • How do you picture your ideal day? What would it contain?
  • Do you want to have more time? More money? More love? More forgiveness? More sleep? More patience?

 

Once you have written your list, write down one task  you can do this week or this month to help you to get a little closer to that goal. Review your goals weekly and tick off tasks you have achieved and set another task that takes you another step closer to your goal. Pin your list up somewhere where you see it everyday and read it morning and evening. The more you see it, the more you will subconsciously and consciously try to make your life go in the direction you want it to go!

Look out for my next article on this topic – on tackling tricky goals!