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How to determine your core values

Core Values?

Values drive our aims and goals in life. They help us to sort out what is important to us and where we need to direct our focus. Pick your top 5 values for living your life (and another 5 specifically for your business or career). See if, in your current situation, you are truly achieving the life you want with these values.

You can do this by writing down examples of how each of these 5 values appear in your life, at the moment. If they don’t feature in your life currently, write down one step you can take towards achieving this value in your life. The more values you are currently including in your life, the more true to yourself, your dreams and your moral compass you will be.

The aim is to get all 5! Our goals and values change, so it is useful to do this exercise every year.

Here is a list of key values:

Acceptance

Achievement

Acknowledgement

Adventure

Aesthetics

Appreciation

Authenticity

Balance

Beauty

Being active

Bliss

Caring

Career

Clarity

Comfort

Commitment

Compassion

Community

Co-operation

Confidence

Contentment

Courage

Creativity

Curiosity

Daring

Dedication

Detachment

Determination

Devotion

Diligence

Discipline

Discernment

Empathy

Empowerment

Energy

Enthusiasm

Excellence

Exciting

Fairness

Faith

Fame

Family

Financial independence

Flexibility

Forgiveness

Freedom

Friendship

Fun

Generosity

Gentleness

Goodwill

Grace

Gratitude

Growth

Happiness

Harmlessness

Harmony

Healing

Health

Honesty

Hope

Humility

Humour

Inclusiveness

Independence

Insight

Integrity

Influence

Intelligence

Intimacy

Introspection

Intellectual growth

Intuition

Joy

Justice

Kindness

Knowledge

Leadership

Learning

Love

Loyalty

Maturity

Money

Nurturing

Openness

Orderliness

Participation

Partnership

Passion

Patience

Peace

Performance

Prosperity

Purpose

Recognition

Relationships

Reliability

Respect

Responsibility

Reverence

Risk taking

Sacrifice

Serenity

Service

Sharing

Silence

Spontaneity

Strength

Status

Support

Success

Trust

Truth

Understanding

Unity

What are your big dreams?

For a long time, one of the biggest dreams for me was to hold a book in my hands that I had helped create. When I received my copy of Domestic Imaginaries: Navigating the Home in Global Literary and Visual Cultures in the mail and held it in my hands, it was the greatest feeling of completion, and like a goal I had been working towards for years had finally reached fruition. But getting started was difficult, as I had never published a book before and neither had my co-editor, Hollie. Nevertheless, we really went for it!

Although I believe in regular goal setting and reviewing, I feel it is also important to prioritise your top goals. This is because we often start something difficult, and when we hit a difficult point, it can feel natural to give up and go onto something else that is easier and less daunting. Something safe. If you are someone with a lot of goals this can be dangerous because you could get deflated as you chip away at several dozen goals, but never really achieving any real milestones or completing any goals. This is why focusing on a maximum of 5 goals at a time is important. If  you are unsure on how to pick, it might be that you try to get balance by attempting to pick one goal for a different area of your life, such as:

  • relationships, friends and family
  • finances
  • career, work and business
  • well-being, health and fitness
  • hobbies, creative projects and travelling
  • personal and spiritual growth

Alternatively, you might find that most of these areas are going well, except for one and you want to set 4 or 5 goals that will get this area back on track.

Or you could pick according to urgency and need. If you could list all your goals and pick the top 5 most important, which would you pick? What could you do right now to get started on making small steps towards these big dreams? Who can you ask to help you? Often, once we break it down into sizeable chunks the big dream just looks like lots of little steps towards a bigger goal. And that is because it is!

If you are interested in finding out more and want to explore coaching with me, book a discovery call with me and find out how to achieve your dreams! Email me at hello@bexharper.com