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How to organise your goals: Be, Do, Have Lists

One of the most effective ways to set long term goals is using a ‘Be, Do, Have’ list. In short, you write down all the things you want to be, all the things you want to do in life and all the things you want to have (both material and non-material). Then you come up with steps to achieve these goals. Here is some food for thought to help you write the list:

1. Be

  • What sort of person do you want to be seen as by others?
  • What sort of role do you want to play in others’ lives?
  • If you aren’t happy in your career, what do you want to be?
  • What sort of emotions do you want to feel more often?
  • What sort of habits do you want to adopt or establish?


2. Do

  • What do you want to do to earn money?
  • What sort of hobbies do you enjoy or want to cultivate?
  • Where do you want to go?
  • What haven’t you done yet that is important to you?



3. Have

  • Is there anything you want to buy that you don’t yet have?
  • What sort of relationships would you like to have?
  • How do you picture your ideal day? What would it contain?
  • Do you want to have more time? More money? More love? More forgiveness? More sleep? More patience?


Once you have written your list, write down one task  you can do this week or this month to help you to get a little closer to that goal. Review your goals weekly and tick off tasks you have achieved and set another task that takes you another step closer to your goal. Pin your list up somewhere where you see it everyday and read it morning and evening. The more you see it, the more you will subconsciously and consciously try to make your life go in the direction you want it to go!

Look out for my next article on this topic – on tackling tricky goals!

How to make a capsule wardrobe!

I recently created a capsule wardrobe. “What is a capsule wardrobe?”, I hear you cry! Well, simply put, it is a wardrobe of relatively few items that all (or mostly) go well together. You should have lots of neutral colours like black, grey, white and creams. Then you need to work out a few colours that will be your accent colours. Pick colours that suit you. (If you aren’t sure, Colour Me Beautiful is a good place to start.) I discovered that my colours are bright red, purple, peacock blue and turquoise-green. These became the accent colours for my capsule wardrobe.

What are the pros and cons of creating a capsule wardrobe?

Well, the pros are that you are meant to reduce your wardrobe to a much smaller, more manageable size (say 30-50 pieces, not including underwear, PJs and socks) which can be very hard for some people. However the benefits are three-fold: firstly, you do not need as much space to hang your clothes so it is great for students and travellers. Secondly, having less clothes means taking less time to decide what to wear in the morning, which means you get more time in bed. Thirdly, because nearly all the outfit pieces go with each other, you have many more combinations than you would expect from so few items!

How long does it take to create? How do I do it?

Anything from three days to three years. You can start the process by dividing your entire load of clothes into three piles: keep, donate, recycle. Keep only those that you absolutely wear and that fit you well. You will want to donate those items that no longer fit, that you never have a chance to wear or that don’t make your heart sing. Then you will want to recycle those items that have been a little too well-loved and are worn out. Try to get your wardrobe down to under 50 items. This could take you a day or a week to do. Only you will know!

Once you have done this, sort through and put away the items that are neutral colours:  black, grey, white and creams. Then you will be left with the colours that are your current accent colours. See if you still like these and try to get these colours down to just two to five colours.

The last step is to create a list of what is missing. You might have given away your only pair of shorts. Or you might not have enough underwear. Whatever it is, write it down on a list and then go shopping. Only buy what is on the list!!! (This is important!)


Changing habits

The most important part of creating a capsule wardrobe is that you are becoming a minimalist. This means you should aim to not just buy whatever, whenever you seen it. Once you have your capsule wardrobe, enforce the ‘one in, one out’ rule. If you buy something already have in mind what you will donate from your wardrobe in exchange. This helps to keep things under wraps and also helps make sure you aren’t breaking your closet every time you try to take out your outfits!