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Back to School!

BHTC will open its doors again on Monday 9th September at 4pm to begin the new school year!

Firstly, we are almost fully-booked, so get in touch if you haven’t secured your tutoring slot for September. We’ve only got these times left:

  • Tuesdays 6:00-7:00pm (fortnightly)
  • Wednesdays 4:00-5:00pm (weekly)
  • Wednesdays 5:00-6:00pm (fortnightly)

Get in touch via email ASAP to book! Contact hello@bexharper.com for more information or to book one of these times.

 

Secondly, don’t forget to let me know which literature texts you are studying for GCSE, your examination board or other important information.

So, I’ll see you week commencing 9th September! Enjoy the rest of your holidays!

Bex Harper
romantic dates on a budget

Romantic Dates for Lovers on a Budget

Dating can be difficult at the best of times, but when you are on a budget because you are struggling financially, it can make dating even more awkward and unromantic. The media teaches us that being rich, generous and glamourous makes us attractive and more likeable. So, dating when you are a student, in a low-paid job, unemployed or just generally struggling to make ends meet can be quite intimidating. However, there are many nice dates you can arrange to impress either your current partner or a new partner. Give these a try…

 

  1. Romantic Cinematic Dates

Film festivals and outdoor cinema events are frequently around in major cities and have a nice vibe. But even if there are not any film festival currently happening, or you live in a small town, you can select from a number of romantic films on Netflix, Amazon Prime Video or on DVD / Blu-Ray. If you can’t decide, watch some of the trailers and see which two you like best. Then let your partner decide! You can often get special midweek cinema deals too, if you wanted to go out for your film date.

 

 

  1. Outdoor Adventures

On days with nice weather, you could take advantage of the assets that your local outdoors provides. Walking and hiking are popular activities that allow lots of time to talk. So, these are great activities if you are at the stage in the dating process where you want to get to know your partner better. If you have been on a few dates with him/her already and want to do something very romantic, take him/her camping overnight: watch the sunset together, spend time star-gazing with your partner and give him/her massages.

If you are fairly confident with your body and the temperature is very warm, swimming is a great option, particularly if you are far more confident about your body than the contents of your wallet! Lots of parks having boats you can hire at a reasonable cost.

In colder weather, you could go ice skating or visit a winter market to buy and drink warm soup or wine, huddled together to keep warm. There are lots of options, so be creative!

 

  1. Local Cultural Scene and Community Events

There are often local community events for free or with very cheap entry prices, such as local folk festivals, concerts, gigs, outdoor cinema nights, beer festivals, wine tasting events, book launches, poetry readings, open mic nights, theatre plays, roller derby and pride parades. Your local community centre, town hall, library or the web will undoubtedly have more information on what is going on over the next month or so. The good part about these events is you don’t have to travel very far. If you are in a long-distance relationship if your date is travelling to you, you can seem very clued up and excited about your local area and its culture.

 

  1. Intellectual Pursuits

It is not said enough, but most people are impressed by intelligence. If you think your date is going to fall into this category, take him/ her to some local art galleries, museums or botanical gardens. If your partner does seem intellectual, they are sure to be very impressed by your art or history knowledge and cultured attitude. One thing I have heard is that there is nothing more romantic than having a partner whisper something very intellectual in your ear in a museum, whilst putting their arms around you – first to point at an artefact, then to embrace you. This is perfect for that second or third date, when you want to show your partner a different side to yourself. Keep it genuine though, as there is no point taking him/her to a gallery if you hate art!

 

  1. ‘Foodie’ Indulgences

Going out for a coffee is a perfect cheap date, especially if it is a first date and you are not sure whether or not you will get on well. If you are a ‘foodie’, however, you could ask your dating partner if he/she would like to go on a picnic, or do a portable BBQ somewhere romantic. You can usually buy portable BBQs (both reusable or disposable) quite cheaply from your local supermarket or garden store. A nice walk along the beach combined with a tasty BBQ could be a great combination. Otherwise, a picnic at the beach or in your local park, woods, or botanical garden could also be a hit. You could carefully select the foods you bring on a theme, if you know your date is really into a particular cuisine or has a particular interest.

 

  1. Play games

If you are happy to have your date come to your place, then board games, chess, video games, or (if you are feeling more adventurous) poker can all make for a really nice evening. If you are too shy to show her your place, too lazy to tidy up, or are in the middle of renovating your home, there are many games that you can take to venues outside your home. Card games or easily portable board games would be fine to play in a pub or café. You could combine games with other dates I have suggested, such as hide and seek in a library, museum or park, or make up dramatic stories about what you think has happened to strangers you see to make them be in the location and situation they are in now!

 

  1. Treasure Hunts and Escape Rooms

With the rise of Geocaching, the app that makes treasure hunts easy (as you do not need to set them up yourself), treasure hunting has become very popular. You could download the app and tell your date to wear sensible shoes and that the date is mystery. Alternatively, if you want to go all-out, for an anniversary date or to really impress someone, you could create your own treasure hunt, with a prize at the end of the hunt – pick something your date really likes, or create a suggestive but witty ‘I owe you…..’ coupon!

Escape Rooms generally cost £15-20 to do, but they are an excellent one-off way to see how you and your partner work together. You might learn something interesting about each other!

 

Remember…

Whatever you choose, remember that dates are meant to be enjoyable and not break the bank. You don’t have to impress your partner with lots of cash – a thoughtfully planned date with romantic elements can often mean a lot more.

 

Bex Harper

Revision Time!

It’s time to revise! Don’t panic! Check out:

Good luck! 🙂

Bex Harper

Film and Nostalgia: Representations of History Course Review

Guest Post by Sandra Martin

WEA Billericay Branch – Spring Course

Film and Nostalgia: Representations of History

Tutor – Dr Bex Harper
Scene:

A cast of around 30 men and women from their mid to late twenties and ……!
Seated, facing a screen, wide-eyed in anticipation. Unsure what the next 8
weeks will involve. A plethora of bodice-ripping tear- jerkers? A potted history
of the world courtesy of the film industry? Think what the film ‘Troy’ did for
our knowledge of the magnificent Greek civilisation hmm?!

Enter stage left:

Our Director/Producer Bex whose in-depth enlightenment of how film
techniques are used to portray events, emotions, relationships and
environments ensured that we will probably never view a film in quite the
same way.

Bex helped us to really see the importance of things that we may not have
noticed in our viewing. For example, so many different camera angles used as
devices to show so much more than the things in shot, such as the
power/vulnerability of characters, historical setting, and of course emotions.
She chose 4 films for scrutiny. The first being Howard’s End, which we soon
realised was so much more that a beautifully filmed rural idyll and which some
might call a stereotypical nostalgic film?

Secondly, and about as different from Howard’s End as you could choose, was
the brilliant Good Bye Lenin!, a film set in the last years of the GDR ,when
history was being made, but focussing on the life of one family. Bex’s guidance
through this film showed us how a film can show nostalgia and heritage in such
a very powerful way that the viewer can identify with even though the events
were far removed from their own lives. It was a film that was a great discovery
for most of us and during the 4 weeks we studied it, I for one couldn’t wait for
the next session.

After a session viewing clips from, and discussing The Help – a film set in the
south of the US around the time of the Civil Rights movement, we moved on to
our final film The King’s Speech, set in the years leading up to WW2 and
centred on the future King’s struggles to master a speech impediment which
could hinder his role as sovereign.

Method:

Our sessions were so much more than us, as the audience, viewing while the
Director Bex led – we broke off into small groups for discussion and then
regrouped to share our views after each clip. This technique enabled us to
pursue in depth what nostalgia and heritage in film meant, not only to us, but
in the portrayal of life events in film.

A thoroughly enjoyable and enlightening course.

– Sandra Martin, Student
Bex Harper
Easter break means easter eggs!

Easter Holidays: Closure Information

Easter Holidays Closure Dates!

Bex Harper Tutoring & Coaching will be closed for the Easter break between Saturday 6th April and Monday 22nd April 2019 (inclusive). There will be no tutoring lessons or coaching sessions during this period, as Bex and our administrator, Hannah, will also be out of the office, on annual leave.

 

Contact

If you need to contact us via text or email or send homework via email, you shall receive a response on Tuesday 23rd April, when we resume our normal business opening hours. Many thanks for your patience.

 

Revision

Good luck with your exam revision over the Easter period! Don’t forget to build in little tea breaks to eat those lovely Easter eggs!

Bex Harper
You can set up your business with some business coaching

How do I start my own business?

As a business coach and a business owner, I get a lot of people telling me they’d love to work for themselves. Many people ask me how it’s done. So I thought I’d share my story, insights and knowledge. Here are the questions you should ask yourself:

 

Why do you want to work for yourself?

Knowing exactly why you are choosing this path can be helpful. Try to think about what your top 5 core values are for your business practice. This is basically your vision for your business and will help you decide if you are doing this to try to be more in control of your life and schedule, or because you want a business venture, or because you like the idea of being able to wear PJs and work from home! Here is a list that is nowhere near exhaustive.

 

Should you ease into it or throw yourself in?

People often ask if they should quit their 9-5 job and begin being their own boss. It depends entirely on the industry in which your business is location and your financial needs. It also depends on whether or not your boss will let you go part-time whilst you set up your new venture. If you are someone who values financial security, then you might prefer to ease yourself in. If you are someone who just wants to work in your current job until you are ready to launch, then that might be seen as the middle group.

But if you are someone who thinks that, unless they take drastic action, they won’t actually do it, then possible throwing yourself in completely might be right for you. But only you can know what is right. If you are unsure, I suggest you get some business coaching before making such a big decision as quitting your 9-5 job!

 

 

What practical things do I need to know at the start?

Once you decide on an industry, your business location, and your core business values, you can get started! You need to register your business with HMRC so that you can start paying tax. It is advisable to get an accountant, particularly for the first year. This is because, for the £250-400 you spend on an accountant, they will be able to advise you correctly about what you can claim against your taxes (expenses and business set up fees) and what you cannot.

 

You should also make sure you set aside enough of your income to pay your tax and NI. HMRC require you to pay your tax bill in the January following the last tax year. (I.e. for the tax year April 2018- April 2019, you pay your tax bill before the end of January 2020.)

 

I would also advise you to have a website and social media pages to promote your business. You could also get references from former employers to show to your first clients before you have any testimonials or online reviews. Once you’ve been in business a while, as clients you are working with if they would mind writing a review.

 

Many people also advise you need a marketing plan and business plan. These are particularly important if you have investors, as they will want to see that you have ensured your business will grow year on year.

 

Let’s Go!

If you would like some business coaching to help you get started, please email hello@bexharper.com

 

 

Bex Harper
person achieves their goal and celebrates on a mountain top!

How to determine your core values

Core Values?

Values drive our aims and goals in life. They help us to sort out what is important to us and where we need to direct our focus. Pick your top 5 values for living your life (and another 5 specifically for your business or career). See if, in your current situation, you are truly achieving the life you want with these values.

You can do this by writing down examples of how each of these 5 values appear in your life, at the moment. If they don’t feature in your life currently, write down one step you can take towards achieving this value in your life. The more values you are currently including in your life, the more true to yourself, your dreams and your moral compass you will be.

The aim is to get all 5! Our goals and values change, so it is useful to do this exercise every year.

Here is a list of key values:

Acceptance

Achievement

Acknowledgement

Adventure

Aesthetics

Appreciation

Authenticity

Balance

Beauty

Being active

Bliss

Caring

Career

Clarity

Comfort

Commitment

Compassion

Community

Co-operation

Confidence

Contentment

Courage

Creativity

Curiosity

Daring

Dedication

Detachment

Determination

Devotion

Diligence

Discipline

Discernment

Empathy

Empowerment

Energy

Enthusiasm

Excellence

Exciting

Fairness

Faith

Fame

Family

Financial independence

Flexibility

Forgiveness

Freedom

Friendship

Fun

Generosity

Gentleness

Goodwill

Grace

Gratitude

Growth

Happiness

Harmlessness

Harmony

Healing

Health

Honesty

Hope

Humility

Humour

Inclusiveness

Independence

Insight

Integrity

Influence

Intelligence

Intimacy

Introspection

Intellectual growth

Intuition

Joy

Justice

Kindness

Knowledge

Leadership

Learning

Love

Loyalty

Maturity

Money

Nurturing

Openness

Orderliness

Participation

Partnership

Passion

Patience

Peace

Performance

Prosperity

Purpose

Recognition

Relationships

Reliability

Respect

Responsibility

Reverence

Risk taking

Sacrifice

Serenity

Service

Sharing

Silence

Spontaneity

Strength

Status

Support

Success

Trust

Truth

Understanding

Unity

Bex Harper